Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something, having a firm trust. You can either be confident in yourself and your abilities, or in someone else, and their abilities.

Confidence is not knowing it all, or being perfectly sure in your own abilities. It is not an ego trip, pushy, domineering, or a quality reserved for the super-high-capacity-I-can-do-anything-type-of-girl.

If you have a firm trust in the Father’s love and provision for you, you will have an unshakeable foundation to walk in God-confidence for the rest of your life.

For much of my youth, I wanted so desperately to be confident, that I actually faked confidence. When I knew we had an assignment that required getting up in front of the class, I usually calmly volunteered to go first because if I acted like I wasn't terrified, I could somehow trick the class into believing I was confident, even when I wasn't.

So I voluntarily took the torture first, and I won in 2 ways:

  1. I got the assignment over with and wasn't forced to sit with a soccer ball size pit in my stomach, and
  2. I convinced everyone else around me that I had it together.


Faking confidence might work in some situations, but I don't recommend it as a lifestyle practice.

When it is real life you are living, and not 10th grade English class, fake confidence doesn't get you very far.

Life has a way of quickly turning from "fear of standing in front of peers" to "fear my dad is dying from cancer" and "fear because I am absolutely crumbling over responsibilities as wife and mother.”

Fake facades do not carry you far in these situations.

I have learned that I cannot rely solely on self-confidence; I need confidence in the Lord God. God-confidence. This is faith.

I have learned to trade fake “togetherness”, which is wrapped up prettily with fabricated confidence, for confidence in Christ. This is faith.

Any confidence I now possess, comes from knowing that God is on my side, and He is the One who will keep me from stumbling.

Any confidence I now possess, comes from knowing that God is on my side, and He is the One who will keep me from stumbling.

There is a story in the Bible about a woman of confidence that has been rocking me to my core. Hers is a story of a life of faith.

Most of you know of Mary, the young Hebrew girl, the mother of Jesus. As a teen, she was visited by the angel Gabriel, who told her that she would be the one to carry in her womb and give birth to the long-awaited Messiah, she would be the chosen vessel to deliver the Savior of the world.

This whole idea was so crazy: a young girl, unmarried, without status, giving birth to the Messiah of the world.

Yet when she realized she had been chosen by God, and when He spoke to her, she believed Him.

When all others around mocked and doubted, this young girl held the truth in her heart.

She believed, and then pondered the truths for decades as she gave birth to the Christ, raised Him, and watched Him grow into His destiny.

Though she may not have known the way in which Jesus would save her people, she knew that He would. She was confident in this.

In Luke 1:38, Mary says, "Behold the maidservant of the Lord. Let it be to me according to your word."

Let it be to me according to your word, Lord.

Let me, like Mary, surrender my own fears and be filled with a confidence that what you speak, will come to pass.

Luke 1:45, reads "Blessed is she who believed, for there will be a fulfillment of those things which were told her from the Lord."

There will be a fulfillment for those who believe.

I also want this deep-rooted faith that is not easily shaken by circumstances.

I do not need to be set on receiving the fulfillment of His promises in my own time and my ways and my methods, but I do need the unshakeable understanding that GOD HAS GOT THIS.

He's got this life of mine. He’s got my kids, my husband, this country, and this world. No matter the doubt and evil that swirl around me, I can remain confident that He will accomplish all He wills, in His way, and in His time.

Mary's confidence rested in what had been promised to her, and not in her own ability to make it happen.

Mary’s confidence rested in what had been promised to her, and not in her own ability to make it happen.

Initially, her response to the angel was "how can this be?"

For a moment, Mary is struck with doubt, but then confidence overwhelms her as she surrenders her doubt with the declaration: "Let it be to me according to your word."

She surrendered any ideas that her own ability could have gotten her this position, and let God work His grace and mercy through her. Her surrender to be a vessel changed the course of history for the entire world. She became a crucial participant in God’s great story of redemption.

Surrender birthed confidence. Surrender birthed fulfillment.

So I have to ask myself: What is my response when God speaks?

Does doubt flash over my heart, just like it did Mary, but then I return to believing in His Word?

Or do I hear Him, immediately doubt, and forever remain a cynic? “How can this be true....?”  “Did God really say.....?”

Will truths or doubts repeat for decades in my heart?

Lord, open my heart and eyes to be able to see where I have traded God-sufficiency for self-sufficiency. Help me to surrender my own timing and ideas for Yours.

May my confidence in life be rooted in a confidence in You, let me be held by a firm trust in Your abilities and provision for my life.

Let it be to me according to thy Word.

More About Marianne Sloan

Marianne Sloan is passionate about Jesus, her family, and living simply, intentionally, and with great joy. She has found that there is no greater life fulfillment than following hard after the God who has created her, knows her by name, and who loves her. The wife to Luke, and mama to 4, Marianne and her family live in a small town outside of Nashville, Tennessee. She is a homeschool-mom, web-designer, and nature-lover. Spending her days raising & teaching her 4 littles keeps her a little occupied, but when she not mothering, working or teaching, she loves to read, write, garden, and run. You can connect with Marianne on her BLOG { } and INSTAGRAM { @marianne_sloan }.